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Have we asked the right questions? Do we even know to ask them?
Our human experience is a continuous dance between chaos and order, between struggle and elation, between pain and relief, ultimately, between life and death.
Caught in our daily episodes, we lose our vision of this fascinating oscillating force, pulled and pushed by either of their polarity.
In my book Conversations With Self, Self brought to my attention this human proclivity to jump to conclusions and to “provide answers to questions that haven’t yet been asked”.
They (Self acted as a plural) said that if we want better answers to our life experiences, we have to ask better questions, the question being the prime ingredient of the answer.
It took me years to realise just how important this process of asking questions was.
All conflicts along human history were born from the answers. Somebody’s answers to questions yet to be asked. From religion to science and world government politics, century after century, we paid the dire price for our complacency of letting others ask the life’s questions in our place, and for accepting their answers as finite. Worse, as facts.
“This is how it is. This is how it should be done…”
In the book I have a chapter expressing my fury in front of this short-sighted deterministic attitude entitled “Says who?”
Who said that our social structure is the right one? I mean, for the big majority. Especially when we are faced with a deluge of crisis forcing us into a never-ending vicious cycle of having to abandon each time more our right to question the answers. Somebody’s answers that, surreptitiously, shifted from a decade to another from being proposed to being dictated?
Who said that our way of living is the right answer to life’s demands of us?
We’ve been pushed into such a frenetic rhythm, asked to leave behind family and friends to fulfil schedules and matters of someone else’s urgency. Deadlines… We’ve been kept so busy by somebody else’s answers that we’ve failed to realise that our lives have become a constant marathon towards death-lines.
Who said that we need religion to give us the answers to our life’s mysteries when the first mandate of any religion is “believe and don’t ask”? Or that we can rely on science, for that matter, who has become indistinguishable from religion.
Who said that we have to carry into today the discord of yesterday? Whether with your spouse, your child, your manager, colleague, or with yourself.
Yesterday’s crisis was born from an answer to a question you haven’t yet asked.
So, I’ll leave you to ponder:
What questions haven’t you asked?
© Gratiela Rosu – Author, Mental Health & Wellbeing Consultant, Founder of CWS Health & Wellbeing Method*
